L. Eric Culverson - www.TheCompetenceMyth.com
This discussion series is an excerpt of my book: The Competence Myth - Why your technical skills are no longer enough and what you can do about it (based on Chapter 8: Becoming a Master of Change)
There are four steps to you becoming a master of change, and remember our objective is to not just survive change and go with the flow, no, our objective is to ride the wave the inevitable change, master it, grow in the process, and be even more successful coming out then we were going in.
The first of the fours steps is acceptance. This means we accept that major changes have occurred, and will probably continue to occur. That sounds pretty basic, like well duh.. Let me explain what I mean, we need to distinguish between acceptance and acknowledgement. I am not saying that we need to acknowledge change. In fact, we need only be half-awake to acknowledge anything. Instead, I’m saying that it will be necessary to take a brutally honest, revealing, and possibly painful look at our lives, and then the world around us ‒and finally accept that some things will never be the same.
In that same instance, however, remember that in the midst of great change, there is even greater opportunity. But you got to stop clinging to the past, before you really focus on the future. And we can all intellectually accept that, but emotionally, spiritually and psychologically, it’s one of the hardest things to do. I suppose the main reason for that is the past we know, we knew where we stood, what we could do, where we fit in. We built our reputation, and our relationship to others somewhere in that space.
Again, step one is to accept that in some cases, the changes around us create an entirely new landscape. What was there before may not even exist anymore. Let it go!
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